We don’t need to pretend we enjoy the company of those who challenge our commitment to integrity. We can be honest with ourselves that at times it is tedious. Such honesty in fact contributes to strengthening equanimity. Even equanimity however, won’t protect us from from feeling undermined or uncomfortable. It will mean though that we are not so drained by our preferences – liking and disliking. The wise already know this, which is one reason why their company is so appealing.